Go from feeling worthless to worthy.
From feeling as though you are undesired to extremely desired by wonderful men. From treating yourself as though you have no value to realising your truth, that you are in fact, a high value woman.
Are you lonely?
Perhaps you are surrounded by wonderful family and friends but lack the deep connection to a romantic interest. Or if youāve always had tumultuous relations with relatives and trouble maintaining friendships you may feel the gap of not having a partner as an even deeper void.
*Are you fed up with goofballs on dating sites?
Do you start to wonder if itās something youāre doing wrong or āprojecting out into the universeā? Are you seeking a relationship with a genuine man, who will both respect you and cherish you, but instead all you seem to attract are jokers, players and fools?
Are you tired of pretending to be someone youāre not?
Are you scared to allow men to see the real you in case they disappear? Do you put on an act, never allowing the mask to slip? Instead of developing a sincere bond, you try to maintain an unfulfilling pretence, building a house of cards that has a limited shelf-life before it all comes crashing down and he vanishes forever?
Have you had enough of being a strong independent woman?
Are you exasperated with being told to act as though everything is fine even when your world may be crumbling? Of never being permitted to share struggles with your love interest? Do you long for a man to sweep you up in his arms and give all of himself, spiritually, financially and romantically to you? For a woman who desires not to be alone, life is better and sweeter when you are happily married.
Your life can change very quickly. You can find yourself in a committed, fulfilling relationship with a man who truly cherishes you in a short time span. In the scheme of things, not much time at all.
Want to know how this is possible for you?
Have you been trying various dating strategies for years without much success?
I know that you are worthy and capable of finding this type of love. Every woman is with the right strategy and mindset. You can secure and maintain a fulfilling and satisfying relationship. You can share a deep connection with a man who is completely devoted to you.
If you yearn to have that one person to share your birthday celebrations and other special occasions with, then work with me. Imagine never being alone on any holidays again. Think of your next birthday with your man, your knight, being integral to the festivities. You blow out the candles on your birthday cake, no longer fretting about your age or stage in life. Your Mr Right cuts you a slice and gives you a hug. Heās with you. Youāre deliriously happy. This can be your reality.
If you crave starting your own family or finding a kind, doting father figure to your kids then you can have him as part of your life. You can have that completed family you desire so much. It can be more than a wistful fantasy or a dream, it can be your real day to day life!
Are you drained from boring dates with guys you have no chemistry with? Perhaps youāve been on endless dates with guys, itching until the time you could politely leave? All the time willing yourself to be on a date with someone on your level that you could engage with? Are you starting to believe that only unsuitable men who donāt spark any reaction other than boredom from you, would ever be interested in you?
Have you tolerated things from former partners that deep down, you know you shouldnāt have? Are you tolerating things right now? Do you want someone to hold your hand and believe in you, that better *is* possible for you, right now?
Have you spent years lying to yourself, telling yourself that one day heāll change and become the man you need him to be? Are you still lying to yourself now? Perhaps you came online looking for a way to change him and found yourself here, looking around on this websiteā¦ ?
Have you obsessed over guys when you knew deep down that they were wrong for you, but you just couldnāt help it? Have you battled the inner turmoil of head vs. heart when you know a relationship has no real future and you arenāt truly compatible with the other personā¦ yet you canāt seem to let go? Are you struggling with fear of the unknown and a fear of being āofficiallyā single?
Have you chased a guy willing him to love you, when all he did was toss you crumbs? Have you been made to feel worthless by chasing a guy who is ambivalent or pretty much disinterested in you? Are you stuck in a cycle of wanting someone to actually love and care about you when all you get are glimmers of hope, false hope at that?
All of these situations plague your self worth with doubts and undermine any confidence you have to break free and be able to create your dream romantic life. If you are fighting to keep the faith that a deep romantic connection is possible for you, if you are down to your last straw, ready to give anything a try, then you are ready. I can help you.
Regain Your Equilibrium
Dear lady reading this,
I want to reassure you that it can happen and it will happen for you! Regardless of how you look, how old you are, whatever youāve done in the past, whatever mistakes youāve made or whatever misfortune has befallen you, you can move forwards and find a deep connection with a man and have a happy, rewarding life with someone that truly cherishes you.
Even if youāve tried other approaches in the past that havenāt worked, I want to reaffirm to you, your past is not your future! Perhaps it wasnāt the right time then or they werenāt the right approach for you.
I know that human nature is far too fluid to have a rigid āone size fits allā approach. Romantic relationships require the participation of two such individuals, furthering the level of complexity.
You need a tailored approach which takes into account your unique set of circumstances, your desires as a person and the type of man that youāre dreaming of.
I donāt just give you a set of instructions and bark orders at you, telling you what to do with no thought given to your particular position in life. The dynamics between two people in a relationship are constantly changing and evolving, so the advice given needs to have nuance and subtlety. No two people are the same. No two relationships are the same. I give you the specialised attention and guidance you deserve, uniquely crafted to fit your life.
Tough love isnāt my style at all, I lead with compassion.
Who am I and why should you trust me?
Iām Kate Knight and I got happily married for the first time at the age of 37. After trying every dating strategy out there (reading over 250 books concerned with love, dating and relationships), through old fashioned trial and error I figured out the best parts from each theory out there and discarded what didnāt work. I was able to devise my own philosophy by combining my knowledge with experience of actually putting these theories into practise. The final game plan I came up with was unique, to fit my own circumstances precisely. When I work with clients I donāt recycle the same old strategy that I used for myself.
Every client receives a unique strategy, tailored specifically for you, taking all factors into account.
I work with you one to one and devise a holistic plan for you. This plan wonāt be found in any book, even the books written by me, as it will be unique to your specific situation, circumstances and desires.
I will teach you how to apply Feminine Energy so it becomes innate.
Youāll bring out the best nature in masculine men and theyāll reveal their humanity and helpfulness towards you. Iāll show you how to do it. We figure out your most prominent feminine strengths, the ones you find easiest to master and then start to utilise them! This introspective study is unique and different for every woman.
All of us (regardless of our biological gender) is composed of a mix of feminine and masculine energies. No one is 100% masculine energy or 100% feminine energy, that wouldnāt be desirable, as we need both. The trick is finding a significant other who complements your unique composition of feminine and masculine energies. Masculine energy in women isnāt ābadā it is how you get things done, if youāve ever met a deadline in your life, that was masculine energy that helped you to do it. If youāve ever been to the gym when you didnāt feel like it, that was masculine energy giving you the drive to go and do it (see, masculine energy in women isnāt bad!)
The trouble is, in the corporate world, the university world and beyond, high achieving women have got so much masculine energy that theyāve lost all ability to tune into their feminine energy and feminine intuition. That would be fine if they were happy to date men who had more feminine than masculine energy. Yet the majority of women seeking my counsel desire a primarily masculine energy man. In order to be noticed by masculine men, you need to work on your femininity and develop your skills at using feminine energy.
Being able to utilise Feminine Energy is a key skill we work on together.
Master it fully and youāll find yourself going on high quality dates with sincere men. Forget about Netflix and Chill, stay the course, use the unique plan created for you and men will start asking you to proper dinner dates at nice restaurants. Youāll have doors opened for you, chairs pulled out for you and flowers given to you. Youāll be confident, know internally that you are worthy of all this treatment and more. You will be given little love tokens and gifts.
Youāll have regained the power over men you were born with.
More important than just a dreamy courtship is the level of genuine connection youāll achieve with your Mr Right.
Dating will be fun and enjoyable, but with my methods youāll go far deeper than the superficial aspects of a romance with flowers and nice dinners. Youāll be able to reveal your true inner self at the right time and nurture a profound soul to soul-mate relationship with real love. When you get married the man will adore you, be devoted to you, accept you as you are and cherish you. By this point you will have learned enough about each other to have formed a sincere bond.
I will never rush you into an engagement to add a success story photo to my social media presence. I will never pressure you in dating someone you donāt want to. Once you have fully mastered these feminine energy techniques and can effortlessly control your own emotions, the proposals will flow fast and quick. Yet, you can be safe in the knowledge that my advice is purely to put your happiness first and not to further my business. I donāt encourage you to rush you to the ring!
As a rule of thumb, I donāt advise you accept a proposal before 12 full months of dating (can be exclusive or non exclusive dating). Although once you have fully mastered these techniques that have been tailored specific to your personality, men will propose long before the 12 month mark. Instead of a quick succession of jewellery photos on my feed, I want to ensure the longevity and success of your marriage. You will have a selection of men fighting for your hand! Go through all four seasons together before accepting a ring. Then take another 12 months of being engaged before you get married. Getting engaged changes the dynamic of the relationship and adds expectations and stresses that werenāt there before, even if you arenāt actively planning the wedding. In general, speedy engagements and speedy marriages lead to speedy divorces*.
*If you are over 35 and want children then you can go faster than the 2 years before marriage with my blessing, but there are some other precautions we will discuss and you need to be extra vigilant.
What my clients say:
I used to always revert back to my pick me behavior whenever I started to like a guy. I would get scared he would vanish. I would lose all my confidence and my game plan went out the window. Working with Kate I kept my cool and he proposed!!! I am now engaged and planning my wedding!!!!
AO, 38, California, USA
Before, I used to despair, why do I have to try so hard to find that special person and suffer? Now, instead I appreciate my rich, full life that I have. I know there is really someone special for me. He will come to me at the right time. I donāt have to wait for anyone or anything to keep improving my life I have found happiness and I love the people around me. I feel positive that m1y Mr Right is around the corner. Thank you Kate!
NR, 37, Texas, USA
A very sweet & flexible coach! Able to mould herself and work with each client
in a way unique to her clients needs & specific situation & personality. Very giving & kind coach. Always available & a great example of a high value woman
MT, 26, Canada
I booked consulting sessions with Kate, which was one of the best decisions I've made in 2020. I am a Christian with a sinner past, saved by grace, and I have always questioned how I can bring this issue up with the person I am dating. Kate was understanding of my Christian background and offered me helpful advice, book recommendations, and comprehensive ways I could change my lifestyle and my perspective on forgiveness and my relationship with God. In a sense, consultations with Kate were not just about my dating life; it was a comprehensive conversation on how to change my entire mindset. I am now able to forgive myself and have healthy conversations with my loved one without bringing about miscommunication. I am grateful for the wonderful coach Kate
GS, 41, Minneapolis, USA
Have you been harmed by believing in the nonsense that is the so called Law of Attraction (LoA)?
I am a dating coach, I think perhaps the only one, who does not subscribe to nor respect this belief. If bad things have happened to you, it hasnāt been caused by your faulty thinking. It is NOT things you are projecting into the universe. Contrary to the new age mystics, what you think about is NOT what you bring about.
Wishing and wishing wonāt bring the romantic love of your life into reality. Taking action will. Denying yourself to ever feel any negative emotions at all (for fear you might bring about some catastrophe, if you genuinely believe your thoughts cause your reality) is unhealthy and can lead to all kinds of mental disturbances, far worse than if you just allowed yourself to feel the negative emotion in the first place.
Anger, sadness, guilt and shame etc.. are all just the other side to positive emotions. In order to fully appreciate joy and happiness you do need to feel their opposites from time to time. Permitting yourself to just ābeā and just āfeelā these negative emotions means they will pass much quicker than if you try to bottle them. The so called Law of Attraction and Toxic Positivity go hand in hand, my clear recommendation is to avoid both of these dangerous concepts and put them in the trash where they belong.
Your dating journey may have been fraught with difficulties so far. I want to reassure you, it has NOT been due to your thought patterns being projected into the universe. Iāve worked with hundreds of clients and helped them transform their romantic lives, from the perpetually single, the bitterly divorced, to those that were unable to keep a relationship going for more than a few months, to everything in between. Theyāve gone from those situations to long lasting relationships and fulfilling marriages. Not a single case has involved needing to invoke any so called āLoAā or put things out into the universe.
Deprogramming
In fact for clients who have suffered by believing in the so called āLoAā, victims of domestic violence, victims of narcissists and alcoholics, women who have suffered at the hands of controlling and abusive men, we first start with deprogramming. The so called āLoAā has a propensity to blame the victim. According to this theory, if you have married a man who is abusive or violent then it is your fault, from your previous faulty thought patterns, youāve āattractedā this type of man and horrible marriage with your negative thoughts. Ludicrous.
Let me state clearly, the actions of such men is not your responsibility. Fully grown men choose to act how they do on their own.
You do not cause this behaviour nor do you attract it.
If you are in such a situation I beg you to seek help urgently.
You have not caused the circumstances, it is NOT your fault.
There are some thoughtful ways to navigate dating and screen for red flags. There are ways to guard your heart so you donāt bond prematurely to any man before youāve had a chance to properly assess his true morals and his real character. These techniques that I will teach you are based in science, psychology, body language and even some skills from the intelligence world of spies. All of it is grounded in reality, not mumbo jumbo.
Wonāt thinking positive help me find love?
Sure! Iām not anti positive thinking, Iām anti- never being able to feel a negative emotion again in case it impacts on your āuniverse projectionsā. Itās totally normal and healthy to feel down in the dumps every so often. It wonāt affect your ability to find love. If you are feeling down more often than you feel happy, then you might be clinically depressed. Even if it is only a mild depression, seek help from a doctor and therapist now. Nip it in the bud before it has a chance to become a fully blown depressive episode. Donāt think you are wasting anybodyās time. Treating a mild depression is far easier and cheaper for everyone involved (especially you) than allowing things to fester and grow. Take care of yourself. You are worthy and deserving of good health. You are. <3
The Feminine Feminist
I am a āfeminineā feminist.
The two concepts are not mutually exclusive. I believe every woman should have the right to own property, the right to have a bank account in her own sole name, the right to attend university if she wishes, the right to control money and her destiny. I believe every woman should choose whether she wishes to work or not, break through corporate glass ceilings, run her own business, be an employer of others, run a charitable foundation, stay at home, care for children and relatives or be a lady of leisure. ALL of these are valid choices and I can support you towards whichever lifestyle you desire. Feminism gives you the choice. Femininity gives you a smooth and easy relationship with a masculine man.
I am a Lucy Stoner** (I kept my āmaidenā name and title of āMsā after marriage).
Even though I am legally married, UK law allows me to remain as Ms Knight. I didnāt want to hyphenate and I didnāt have to. UK law grants me all the rights and responsibilities of being married without having to give up my name or title. It is possible to do even this and remain in Feminine Energy. I will guide you towards whatever name and title choice is most appealing to you in the most friction free way possible.
**Lucy Stone was the first woman to do this in the USA (possibly in the world) in 1855. Check out the Lucy Stone League for more information.
LGBTQ Friendly.
As a heterosexual cis-woman the majority of my expertise and experience is with advising heterosexual cis-women seeking a monogamous, committed, exclusive relationship (in most cases marriage) to a heterosexual cis-man. However, I get frequent enquiries from women who do not identify as heterosexual or as cis-women. In fact many lesbians tell me the lesbian community is too insular and they prefer to seek counsel outside of it, with someone such as myself. The literature is sparse on relationship dynamics between non-hetero and non-cis couples. I am doing my best to educate myself about it and am always seeking to learn more. If you have any recommendations or would like to discuss these topics and possibly collaborate then please do get in touch with me.
Religion Friendly.
All the major mainstream religions offer comfort, solace and benefit to their followers. I welcome clients from any religious affiliation. My coaching advice will be in line with your religious beliefs, you will not have to break any of your religious laws in order to date successfully. In fact if you are wondering about how to navigate sex I have written a book about it, available free and for immediate download here.
